We do not mention “Thank You” as frequently as we should. In fact, I am beginning to believe that “Thank You” is the most ignored expression on the planet. It is proper in almost any circumstance and it is a superior reaction and a common expression of gratitude. There are certain situations in which we usually do not show our gratitude.
1: On Receiving Compliments
We often ruin compliments by devaluing the statement or acting excessively humble. On the inside, you would possibly assume that this will prevents you from showing arrogance or self-satisfied. The problem is that by deflecting the praise of a real compliment, you do not acknowledge the one who was nice enough to mention one thing. Simply saying “Thank You” fully acknowledges the person who made the compliment and allows you to enjoy the moment as well.
For example, if someone says “Your dress looks great” in a compliment, then instead of saying “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for years” you should try to say “Thank you. I’m glad you like it”. Similarly, if someone says “You killed your presentation today!” then try to answer like “Thank you. I’m happy it went well”, instead of saying “Did I? I felt so nervous up there. I’m glad it looked alright”.
There is somewhat empowering about accepting a compliment completely. When you repel admiration, you can’t really own it. When you just say “Thank You,” you let the weight of the compliment sink in and become yours. Saying “Thank You” gives your mind permission to be built up by the compliments you receive. Getting compliments should be fun and enjoyable, but we often ruin the experience. There’s no need to sabotage compliments that come your way. Accept them with grace even if they are hypocretin and enjoy the moment.
2: When you are late:
Being late is the worst. It’s nerve-wracking for the one that is running late and it’s disrespectful to the one that is waiting.
It might appear strange to give thanks to somebody for handling your trouble; however, that is precisely the correct response. The majority stumble in the door and say, “Sorry I am late.”
The problem is that this response still makes matters concerning you. Sorry, I’m late. The expression “Thank You” turns the tables and acknowledges the sacrifice the opposite person created by waiting. Thanks for waiting.
For example, you walk in the door 14 minutes late. Instead of saying, “So sorry, I’m late. Traffic was insane out there. Try to say “Thank you for your patience”. When we make a mistake, someone else often makes a sacrifice. Our default response is to apologize for our failure, but the better approach is to praise their patience and loyalty. Thank them for what they did despite your mistake.